How to Survive the Holidays

• Posted on November 22, 2023
• by Catherine Boyer
• in New York Neurofeedback
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It’s time for our annual holiday post. Its usually one of the most viewed posts of the year. Why? I’ll get to that in a minute.

It may not seem directly related to NeurOptimal® Dynamical Neurofeedback® – other than that training your brain makes most things in life easier. Benefits from having trained typically mean more ability to choose how to respond, rather than react in the same old way. (No one can get to us like our families!) That makes a difference, perhaps especially at holiday time.

Many of us suffer from comparing our family holiday experience with the ones we see in advertisements, films, television series, etc. Few of us have that experience. That’s probably the biggest reason people have for reading this annual post.

The suggestions below have been tried, tested and added to over the years. I hope they help you have a good experience – or a least a better experience – of the holidays.

The healthier your family is, the less difficult holidays are and the more enjoyable they are. The more dysfunctional your family, the more important it is to have a survival plan. Include as many of the following as fit for you. If you have additional ideas, please post them in the comments section.

How to survive the holidays

• If you’re visiting or your family is visiting you, make sure you get time away from the house. Go for a walk, run an errand, see a movie. This is easier when you’re the visitor, but sometimes just five minutes alone in the backyard or a walk around the block can help.
• Have a support person lined up. That could be your good friend from where you live now, ready to remind you over the phone that you have a life outside your family. Get professional support if you need it.
• If you are the visitor and there are people you like who live in the same town or city as your family, make plans to see them on your own during the visit.
• Conduct an experiment: Study your family members as if you were meeting them for the first time. This will give you some helpful distance and perspective.  And it can be surprising.
• If possible, agree to rule out touchy subjects.
• Remember: You are not your family; you are your own completely separate person.